
all atwitter over here as we get ready for the Seventh Birthday of The Middle Child. this is her at right around Three. my cute little hairless girl she was. now there’s more hair, slightly less attitude, and she can read.
pin the tail on the horse, rainbow confetti cake with *shooting stars* (she has such earnest yet misplaced confidence in my frosting skills), a small crafty pursuit of some sort, the ubiquitous goody bags, the !@#$#% pencil rolls i have yet to buy batting for. tonight! tonight! there’s only you tonight!
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and no, i didn’t give up the quest. (sorry love - i’ll be the good girl this time around and you can be my sweet but naughty best friend who has all the fun while i worry about arriving on time to band practice)
but sweet holy cupcakes, you’ve seen my recent posts…is it the better choice to press on with what sometimes amounts to large sums of drivel or to know thyself and pull the plug on a well-intended but exhausting enterprise?
to each her own, i think. and to explain…
now we proceed toward that segment of the program in which she admits grudgingly that this nablopomo thing has indeed been a good idea.
yes, that’s right.
for nearly a month now i’ve stared the Blank Screen of Death in the face and daily wrestled something forth to put on the page. not always erudite, or well-considered, interesting, wordy or topical. but something.
this has been a public journal of sorts for the last 28 days, and honestly pretty uncomfortable. but it’s reminded me that i love to write, that the reason i started this little robot jumping was to communicate about whatever to whomever. there’s this world of online goodness to take in and enjoy and be inspired by, and here’s my little corner to say what i think about it, and what i made for dinner, and what i might be buying tomorrow or how my hair bugs me or how my *homeschool journey* sometimes feels like a shipwreck. basically, anything i want. i mean, how cool is that?
and yet somewhere along the blogging path things got a little weird: i started to compare myself with other bloggers, other mothers, others and their little corners of the internet. things became very blurred - where was the division line between blogging and living? what pictures will i share? which will i keep for just us? what is wrong with me that i look at nearly everything my kids do and think “should i post this?” why do i care so frakking much what people i’ve never even SEEN think of my silly mundane ramblings? am i interesting enough? is that thing i made/painted/found/thrifted/enjoyed worthy of putting up on flickr? will i earn points of favor, get lots of comments or be linked to or spoken of? am i just a freaked out introvert who needs a vacation? inquiring minds want to know.
and sheesh don’t for a second misunderstand me, all that is terrific and nice work if you can get it, and how wonderful when something you’ve created is passed around and copied and admired and hey, go for that etsy marketing to make some cash, i mean it - go girl go. when your pictures delight and inspire, when something you can’t help but say tumbles out and a few other souls Out There get it, get you, commiserate, congratulate, ponder with you. how cool is that?
but it is such a fine little line, and this nagging voice inside my head (probably the same one that comes around poolside in summer to whisper “melanooo-ma”) keeps going on about integrity, and pleasing only me, and doing this little drama for nobody else and at the end of the day who cares if anyone is out there listening, praising, ignoring, commenting, avoiding or oblivious.
maybe you don’t struggle with this. maybe your confidence exceeds mine so much that you’re incredulous at my admissions. good for you, seriously. send me your helpful thoughts. i put far too high a price on approval, and maybe that’s one great reason to get out of this ballgame altogether.
so i’m still working it all out, but nablopomo has done the favor of making me want to try and get back there, back to not giving a hoot about doing this for any other reasons than those i started with: it’s therapeutic, a terrific writing exercise, i’ve met the coolest online girlfriends and local ones i’d never have known otherwise, it keeps me from losing my sanity here in stay-at-home-momland, it keeps me current, and it’s fun. even if nobody was listening.